Dimension I

XPLORE

The Collaboration Concept

 

Key Concept 2:

COLLABORATION

Successful individuals are those who learn how to

collaborate rather than competing with others.

 

SNAPSHOT: Denpasar Airport, 1996

Tourists in Paradise

Gaia: We now live in Bali, a tropical island paradise in Asia just 12 degrees south of the equator. We were drawn here by the wonderful balmy climate, the colourful culture, and inviting environment. Originally planning to come for a few months, for a working holiday retreat – we ended up staying for many years.

Many other people, too, have been irresistibly drawn to the island. Tourism is the number one industry for Bali, and every five minutes jet loads of visitors arrive to experience the tropical dream. The total number of tourists each year reaches almost 3 million.

A disproportionate number of visitors come from Australia, no doubt because of its close proximity and the predilection Australians have for sunshine and beaches. Right from the moment we arrived we could discern two particular groups of visitors arriving from our home country’s fair shores.

The stereotypical Australian “yobbo tourist”, firstly, travels by Qantas. He consumes as much free grog as possible, eats Australian food, and reads the Australian newspaper while en-route. He takes an air-conditioned taxi from the airport, arrives at his air-conditioned hotel or homestay, and enjoys the comforts of a home away from home. He may go out to “Norm’s Pub” and watch some Aussie Rules Football on TV or drink a Fosters Beer.

No matter what environment he may be in, no matter what the local culture is – he will try to ensure that his experience is consistent with what he is used to. He will not want to step outside of his comfort zone – literally. Inevitably, any deviation from what he expects will prove disastrous. He’ll complain about the heat, the food, the locals, and the inconveniences. Then, after he’s arrived home, he’ll tell everyone about the great time he had in Bali!

The stereotypical Australian “traveller”, on the other hand, will visit another country precisely because she wants to absorb herself completely in a completely different environment and culture. She will travel Garuda and enjoy the local food, practising the local language with the attendants along the way. She’ll read the Indonesian subtitles of the movies, and continually check her phrase book to make sure her language is up to scratch for when she arrives.

The traveller will walk outside of the airport to find the local transport, and happily drag her backpack on board a local minivan or ‘bemo’. She’ll enjoy the hour it takes to travel 3 kilometres, squashed in with the pigs and the chickens, seeing it as an authentic Indonesian experience. She’ll enthusiastically soak up the sights and smells of the country she is visiting, no matter how unusual they may be. She stays in a local homestay, bravely bearing the hole-in-the-ground toilet and languid ceiling fans, taking time to interact with the local people and learn about their lives. No matter what happens, she’ll enjoy the experience simply because it is a unique experience.

Both the yobbo tourist and the traveller have arrived in the same country. Both have had similar experiences. What sets them apart, however, is their attitudes. It shapes how they see the situation, and how they respond to it. It determines, ultimately, how enjoyable and meaningful their visit will be.

We have seen many people come and go from Bali over the years we have lived here, and in the end we have discovered that those who truly experience the island as paradise are those who have the right attitude.

Skill or attitude

Andrew: Those who tend to succeed in life, in general, will always be those who are willing and able to get along with and work closely with others. It may not make a difference how intellectual, intelligent or competent they are in their particular field of expertise, but it will certainly make a difference how competent they are in interpersonal skills. “Emotional intelligence” is, in fact, now considered to be the latest measure of competence.

Companies today will invest a lot of time and money in individuals who outperform others in the organisation, who are able to achieve superior results. Known as “star performers” these individuals have been found to make major contributions to organisations. The top 10% of computer programmers, for example, have been found to exceed average performance by 320%. The top 1% exceed average performance by 1272% A study of 44 Fortune 500 companies found that the top 10% of performers gave back to their company 88 times their salary.

Researchers have found that the key element that can be found in all star performers is not just their skill level, which is undoubtedly important, but also their attitude. These people are able to collaborate with others when working on projects rather than feeling they have to compete. They recognise the value of the collective knowledge of the team.

90% of the thousands of individuals we have surveyed believe that attitude is more important than skill. And yet it’s interesting to reflect on the lack of emphasis on attitude education. Education at school and uni level, as well as on-the-job, generally focuses on skills rather than attitudes. Granted, it is a difficult concept to define and teach. But unless we are wrestling with our values and revising our attitudes, we will not be able to make significant progress.

 

With a little respect

Andrew: The key attitudes that make all the difference in relationships are the ability to trust and respect others. By recognising and accepting differences, we can begin to understand and appreciate the ways we can complement each other.

The process of learning trust and respect should not be threatening, rather it should be enlightening. Once you can learn to see how other people see a situation and can begin to empathise with them, you are halfway there. Tolerance is the first step, and this can soon – with a little patience and perseverance – develop further into respect. This is not a tolerance for ineffectiveness and inefficiency, but a tolerance that comes from appreciating that people are different.

Unfortunately we often end up feeling so threatened by differences that we end up creating unnecessary barriers. Instead of trying to make everyone like us (to satisfy our own needs for security), we need to realise that if treated carefully, we can actually make these differences a source of strength for the group. This is by no means an easy process, as all of us carry so much emotional baggage with us.

More often than not we will need to shift our paradigm to a new model and new analogy to help us achieve this. This requires courage to let go of the old and embrace the new.

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